Welcome to Outpost Oops―a haven where you can explore ways not only to care well for your mind but also to make your world a nicer place. To be a member of the Outpost Oops Planetary Society (OOPS), you just need to strive to be kind and fair. Each week we post an oopsity (oop-si-ty)―a brief commentary for you to mull. Mentors may find having students discuss our oopsities helpful. Our current oopsity follows. Thanks for stopping by.
There’s a Hitch With Hate!
The word hate is used to express a disliking for a wrongdoing and/or a wrongdoer. It can range from being annoyed to repulsed.
There is, however, more to hate. Claiming to have it is also a way to disown mental hurt. We prefer to say we have hate rather than hurt to avoid feeling and appearing weak. Finding hurt painful, we ignore it in an attempt to wish it away―something impossible to do. Like anger and rage, hate temporarily vents strong emotion. Because it typically brings about other losses, such as a loss of ableness, closeness, trust, safety, trust, ableness, closeness and self-worth, it results in more hurt.
Try this: Think of something or someone you claim to hate. Then, have the courage to get personal healing underway by identifying the hurtful loss prompting your hate. Healing continues when you bring about kind and fair ways to replace what you’ve lost.
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Handy Activities:
Whether a curious explorer or a diligent mentor, the options at the top of the homepage as well as those found below provide a variety of ready-to-use ways to carry out mental self-care.
