Welcome to Outpost Oops―a a place you can explore ways not only to care well for your mind but also to make your world nicer. By nicer, we mean kinder and fairer. We hope you’ll become a member of the Outpost Oops Planetary Society (OOPS). To be a member, you merely need to occasionally visit Outpost Oops for self-care support. Everyone sometimes finds staying kind and fair hard. Along with regularly adding new materials, we post a weekly oopsity (oops-i-ty)―a brief notion for you to consider and share. Our current oopsity and the one that preceded it follow. Previously posted oopsities can be clicked on below. Thanks for stopping by.
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When Being Nice Is More Than a Pleasantry
For Outpost Oops, being nice is far more than a superficial pleasantry. Concisely put, we consider people to be nice when they’re kind and fair. As a show of kindness or fairness, niceness reflects a sincere commitment to giving others and ourselves authenticity, respect and empathy.
Whenever you see Outpost Oops mention the usefulness of being nice, keep in mind we’re referring to the mental self-care kindness and fairness provide. For us, kindness and fairness are essential skills that require much deliberation and practice. Again, when the Outpost expresses concern for a lack of niceness, we’re not merely making a fuss about the prevalence of impoliteness. On the contrary, we’re making a big to-do about what keeps people from acquiring good mental health.
Try this: Define a nice person. Do you see such a person as kind and fair?
There’s a Hitch With Hate!
The word hate is used to express a disliking for a wrongdoing and/or a wrongdoer. It can range from feeling annoyed to feeling repulsed.
There is, however, more to hate. Claiming to have it is also a way to disown mental hurt. We prefer to say we have hate rather than hurt to avoid feeling and appearing weak. Finding hurt painful, we ignore it in an attempt to wish it away―something impossible to do. Like anger and rage, hate temporarily vents strong emotion. Because it typically brings about other losses, such as a loss of ableness, closeness, trust, safety, trust, ableness, closeness and self-worth, it results in more hurt.
Try this: Think of something or someone you claim to hate. Then, have the courage to get personal healing underway by identifying the hurtful loss prompting your hate. Healing continues when you bring about kind and fair ways to replace what you’ve lost.
Try this: Imagine the arrival of magnanimous ETs—beings seeking to help humans deescalate the strife on Earth.
Handy Activities:
The menu options at the top of the homepage as well as the items below provide a variety of ready-to-use ways to learn about and carry out mental self-care.
