Hobsters
Hobble
Humbly:
a book about being humble
Outpost Oops
Welcome
Outpost Oops call the part of people who points out times we’re not nice a hobster. Hobsters hobble because people often trip them to try to keep them from admitting to times we’re not kind or fair. Why do they want to confess we haven’t been nice? The answer is they don’t want us to hurt ourselves. You see, they know we like ourselves less when we’re unkind or unfair.
A make-believe purple hobster, called Hobbles, will be helping you feel humblelicious (hum-ble-li-cious). That’s a terrific feeling. It happens when being humble helps people like themselves.
Hurt and Humble
Though yucky, hurt helps us. It gives us a reason to seek to understand how we lost someone or something important to us. Understanding our losses gets us ready to heal, or get over, the hurt that can follow them.
To heal our hurt, we have to find a kind or fair way to feel close or able. Everyone needs to feel close and able, but no one needs to get them in a certain way. For example, when moving to a new town causes us to somewhat lose feeling close to others, we might make new friends or join a team. Also, when failing at a skill causes us to feel less able, we can succeed at a new activity.
Everyone can get hurt less and be less hurtful by being humble. We’re humble when we accept everyone messes up, or makes mistakes. That means we realize mess-ups make us normal.
Special ways to mess up humbly follow. Putting each to use can make feeling close or able more likely. It can also make getting or giving hurt less likely. All of the ways can help you be a healthy and happy person. That’s humblelicious.
The Humble Fumble
A fumble is a common mess-up that happens by accident. It’s a mishap due to such things as being distracted or clumsy. When others see us fumble, they may put us down. Knowing we fumbled can cause us to put ourselves down. So, fumbles can get in the way of feeling close and able.
A humble fumble happens when we admit we’ve messed up. If we’ve let another or ourselves down, we try to fix things. Though we try to learn from our fumbles so that we make them less often, we don’t expect to stop making them. Because we realize everyone sometimes fumbles without meaning to do so, we don’t put others or ourselves down when they occur. That’s very humblelicious!
The Humble Bumble
A bumble happens when we mess up because we lack skill. Messing up a task we’ve spent time preparing to do is a bumble. Thinking we should be good at everything we try can make bumbling something unpleasant. It can make it hard for us to think we’re good enough to feel close or able.
A humble bumble occurs when we realize everyone isn’t good at some things. Not having to always succeed lets us better enjoy life. For example, many people who don’t sing or dance well still have fun singing or dancing. That’s quite humblelicious!
The Humble Stumble
A stumble is a mess-up that happens when we’re anxious. Often, it comes about when we’re worried about getting put down for messing up. Forgetting something we were supposed to say or do is an example of a stumble that can cause us to somewhat lose feeling close and able.
A humble stumble happens when we don’t let messing up due to anxiousness be a big deal. We take a calming breath while reminding ourselves everyone sometimes makes a mistake when she or he is nervous. That’s extremely humblelicious!
The Humble Jumble
A jumble occurs when having a lot to do causes a mess-up. While jumbled, we may become confused or frazzled. Messing up while trying to do house chores and homework at the same time is a jumble. The longer we stay jumbled, the harder it can be for us to pay attention.
A humble jumble happens when we admit we’ve taken on too much. After saying we’ve done so, we do less. Even better, we make time to relax. That’s sensibly humblelicious!
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The Humble Tumble
A tumble is a big mess-up. It’s so big we usually have to repair, redo or give up something. Worse yet, we feel awful afterwards. Stealing, cheating or lying when we’re struggling to feel close or able can be tumbles that cause us to somewhat lose liking ourselves.
A humble tumble happens when we don’t let a big mistake cause us to believe we’re an awful person. During a humble tumble, we remind ourselves being a nice person who’s kind and fair is a good enough reason to like ourselves. That’s definitely humblelicious!
The Humble Rumble
A rumble occurs when not getting along causes us to mess up by being unkind or unfair. We sometimes use rumbling to try to show we’re better than someone else. When a rumble, such as a quarrel, gets out of control, it can be scary. Always, rumbles cause us to lose some closeness.
A humble rumble happens when we don’t let conflict get out of hand. We hold back because we don’t want to see ourselves be unkind, unfair or hurtful. We decide fighting back only makes sense when we can’t escape possible harm. During a humble rumble, we feel wise, not weak. That’s courageously humblelicious!
The Humble Crumble
A crumble occurs when we try hard, but fail, to make something happen. Failing to befriend someone or achieve a skill are examples of crumbles. Because we hide the hurt that comes from not getting what we badly want, we become sad or angry. Our sadness and anger make feeling close and able harder.
The Humble Grumble
A grumble happens when we blame others for our mess-up. Sometimes, we grumble when a task becomes hard. Other times, we grumble when someone isn’t helping us as much as we think they should. Grumbling usually gets in the way of feeling able and close. It also makes liking ourselves hard.
A humble grumble occurs when we realize complaining and blaming make us a grouch who’s hard to like. It also happens when we stop believing someone must change for us to feel better. Realizing this helps us want to be nice. That’s fantastically humblelicious!
The Humble Mumble
A mumble happens when we stay upset with ourselves long after we mess up. Usually, that’s because we’ve ignored and stored hurt. While mumbling, we tell ourselves we’re likely to mess up again. Expecting to mess up can get in the way of feeling able and close.
A humble mumble occurs when we realize we’ve been messing up because a stored heap of hurt has kept us sad and angry. Knowing this causes us to get healing started by seeking kind and fair ways to feel close and able. That’s wonderfully humblelicious!
